I'm 20m and have autism, I do all my work online so I have a lot of free time and I've been finding myself using more and more of it on dating apps. Had plenty of conversations but they never lead to anything serious. I've been aiming for people older than me due to maturity levels being higher with age. I already own my car upfront and own my house with a loan from the bank that should be paid off in roughly 12 years if everything goes to plan, money probably wouldn't be the thing holding me back?
I'm trying to determine if I'm doing something wrong because nobody really seems to be serious about dating. They either don't respond or they do and it drops off quickly, or we do have a good convo and potentially meet up but they ghost me quickly after..
What's starting to make me think I may be the one at fault for nobody really seeming serious is that I have 3 exs and none of those went well:
Ex #1 (meetme): I was about 14, she was probably 16, we talked maybe a week then we went to the movies and she was hitting on other guys in the lobby and she broke up with me the same day..
Ex #2 (customer at old job): I was 17 she was 16, we had a longer term relationship (maybe 8 months) in which I felt secure, I'd see her most days and enjoyed spending time with her but she started texting other men including my best friends and sending my friends at that time nude pics. She also seemed very insecure cause she would call herself ugly over and over for attention. I also could only see her at her house as her mom wouldn't let me take her on dates. I broke up with her in person to be respectful after she wouldn't stop no matter how much I asked her to stop sending nudes and asking my friends to have sex with her.
Ex #3 (customer at old job): I was 18 she was 27, she was kind and sweet at first. I really liked her and I was her first boyfriend ever as I guess she was kind of socially awkward like me. I hit on her by asking to take her out sometime because she walked with duck feet and I thought those were really cute. She was my first sexual partner that wasn't a one night stand. We would go on dates and sometimes drive for doordash together and we loved spending time with each other. She was a big fan of some bands on Instagram though and one of the members of said bands ended up dming her and they ended up sending sexual content to each other. She tried to hide that from me but I saw her while she was taking some of the pics to send to this guy and she still lied and said they were for me even when I saw who she dmd them to on instagram. Also she started yelling at me every day that I was with her for no apparent reason. We started arguing in such a way that I didn't even know what I was doing wrong and I just couldn't take how she would treat me so I ended up breaking up with her, but then felt bad and got back with her cause she kept making fake accounts to message me, but she kept lying to me and cheating on me (only on social media not in person) and yelling at me so we broke up again.
Now a month or more later I'm just so lonely and just don't know why I can't find anyone who's actually a good person to date and wonder if there's something I might be doing wrong. :/
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