I’ve been reading dating advice online for years, and I keep running into the same contradiction. On one hand, people say you should “lower your standards” and go out with people you’re not initially attracted to, because attraction can grow once you get to know someone.
On the other hand, when someone actually does that and dates a person they weren’t attracted to, they get criticized and asked why they dated them in the first place. So which is it?
I have given plenty of men "a chance". I've never felt attraction despite forcing myself to kiss them or have sex. I actually hated sex and dreaded it. But I bet if I had not done that you would all be bitching " You have not tried enough". I've been given this advice even by a therapist.
I don't understand how the average person works. Do you have the potential to enjoy sex with 95% of the desired sex your age? Otherwise why do you talk as if you just need to get to know someone.
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