I'm a woman, 25 years old and about 6 ft 1,5 (1,87m). I've never had a relationship and can count the number of dates I've had on one hand. I'm also a virgin. The best way I can describe my experience is that I seem to not exist to men. They dont approach me, ever. In situations where boys & girls would kind of match up, you know, you could tell people might be looking to hook up, maybe on school trips in the past or now at hostels when I travel, I would always be the odd one out, the girl that no boy sits next to and wants to stick around. If anything, they'd be asking me about my friends. Or I'd automatically get into a "pal" sort of role, they'd start telling me about other girls they're into, or ask me what guys I'm into. Like the idea of something between the two of us is absolutely ludicrous.
Over years and years of never feeling like anyone cares about me or wants me, this has unfortunately turned into a pretty deep wound for me. It's gotten to a point where it's almost impossible for me to even think of myself as dateable, or to entertain the idea that someone might be attracted to me sexually. In fact, I even struggle to see myself as a woman anymore, a lot of the time. Sob story, I know. But its truly how I feel. I am also absolutely terrified of approaching any shorter man first because I'm so sure that they'd be put off - maybe even turned off - by my height. Even men taller than me seem to want a small woman by their side, like it's a law of the universe or something.
Now, recently I spoke to a male friend about this and I finally asked him: do you assume that i wouldn't go for a shorter guy? And without a second's hesitation, he answers yes. And he was genuinely surprised when I told him that's not the case.
So here's my real question: Would a lot of you not approach a taller woman cause you think she's not interested anyway? Unfair! It's not true, guys! But yes, I really want to know.
I've been told that I'm attractive, by different people, not just my mom, haha. And I think my personality isn't terrible either, I do have friends and all that. So I don't know, I dont think there's another glaring reason why I've been so unlucky. In fact, when I've opened up to people about my lack of experience with men, they've been shocked. People generally seem to assume that my life is 'normal' when it comes to men.
So yeah, TL;DR: tall woman here wants to know: Does my height really make me that intimidating? Maybe its masochistic for me to ask, but I just really need to know. Is there hope for me lol
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