Okay hear me out. I am talking about guys that declare that they are “nice guys”. Case in point: I dated a guy briefly, who said he was a nice guy, he was attentive, considerate, blah blah blah. But at the end of every date he would say “oh I am down to hang out some more”. We go back to his place, things proceed. We do it, spend the night, next day I leave. And he would usually not text me until later in the week. Wash, rinse, repeat.
So I misunderstood this as not a strictly physical thing. Because we would go out on nice dates, and spend the night etc. Weeks go by, I tried to DTR. It went horribly he basically said “not ready/looking for anything serious right now”. So we part ways. Months go by, and he texts me again. We start talking. Wash, rinse, repeat. I asked him what he wanted (softer DTR). He basically said same thing. Not looking for anything serious right now.
I was so pissed.
My point is I have had FWB before. We didn’t do the date thing. Every now and then we would have a drink or two, but never dinners. And usually they/I would never stay over. We defined that it was a FWB/NSA. No one got hurt, we both met other people, and moved on.
But guys that present themselves as so called “nice guys” and fake their way into NSA relationships. You are spineless, and cowardly.
This is the definition of stringing someone along. If he told me that’s what he wanted, I would have had the option to think it through and also to not get attached.
So if you call yourself a nice guy as a way of making yourself feel better about being wishy washy. You are the problem.
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