So I [M28] developed feelings for a good friend of mine [F26]. I wasn't quite sure how she felt about me, but we were in this weird pseudo-relationship where we would talk all day most days, lots of affection, compliments on my physical appearance etc. The last 3 weeks, she had been a little cold with me, I thought nothing of it at the time. I was sick of feeling like her pseudo-boyfriend so I decided a week ago that I would hangout with her and tell her how I feel. I accepted that she may not feel the same way, but at least if I tell her we can set proper boundaries moving forward. We made plans to hangout.
Before we got the chance, we get into a little argument over something stupid I said. She went on an angry rant about how she feels like I want something more than friendship. She made a point to be especially mean in her rant (ie. saying things she knows would hurt me). Towards the end of it, she said she thinks I'm using her for attention and she doesn't want to be "like a pseudo-girlfriend". At this point, I decide that I should just tell her how I feel. I told her I have feelings for her, I wished they would have gone away because I didn't want to negatively effect our friendship, and I would like some space away from her. The way I told her, I added something about how it seems obvious to me that you don't feel the same way. I said this assuming I'd get a hard "No" or that she would continue being angry. I had hoped, I guess, that I could put it out in the open and then we could set proper boundaries for our friendship and I could move on.
She kind of gave me a strange response. She immediately apologized for her angry rant (which is unusual, usually when we get into big fights, she needs a few days to sort her feelings out). She said she's not in a position to receive or give romantic feelings, and needs to process some stuff. She agreed we need time to think about this.
Questions:
- Do I take what she said as a hard no?
- Do I move on?
- How much time do I give her?
edit: Just to add, when her last boyfriend told her he was into her, she gave him the same response. 2 weeks later they were dating.
[link] [comments]
from Dating Advice https://ift.tt/2TQzcF9
via IFTTT
No comments:
Post a Comment