My girlfriend and I had a discussion the other day about something I don’t like and we both agreed yet only one of us did it.
For me, when I’m seeing someone I don’t like the idea of talking to people I’ve seen in the past or even following them let alone liking their photos. I think when I’m with someone I’m with them and I don’t want to be following or contacting other people. And she agreed she is the same and she would be annoyed if I was still following or liking other girls photos.
After we talked about that I asked her why she still follows guys she has recently seen (I know who they are because she told me about them) and I noticed that she has liked some of their photos while we have been dating. Honestly it made me feel, and I still do, deflated. Why does she need to follow these guys and LIKE their recent photos still? I said this to her and she responded along the lines with ‘I didn’t think at the time, I accidentally liked one of the photos’ which is not true as she liked many photos not just one. She then said she saw some of them only as a friends thing so it was okay to still like their pics and follow them, I find that questionable and asked if the reverse happened how she would feel. She said she wouldn’t like it. It makes me sad that she did this assuming I wouldn’t know and then turns around and makes out it was an accident after admitting she would hate if I did something like that.
At the end of our conversation on Friday night she said she was sorry (in a roundabout way) and that she would unfollow them. There were 5 guys. I didn’t check until Monday and noticed she had only unfollowed two of them. So she has clearly searched them and chosen to unfollow, but not all of them. I’m confused to how I should approach the convo with her today. Do I bring it up? What do I say? I would appreciate any help on this.
For context you may be wondering why I care if she follows and likes other guys. Firstly I just find there to be no need to do such a thing if you’re in a relationship. Secondly she was in a long term relationship for years and after she broke up there were a few months before we met and she saw 5 guys, she didn’t sleep with them all but since it was so recent to now/when we started seeing each other I find it more concerning she still follows them and likes their posts.
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