Hi! I need some advice to know whether I'm being reasonable about my thoughts or I might be asking too much.
I've been dating my bf for over a year now. He's the sweetest guy that I know. We don't get much into fights, we pretty much solve misunderstandings fast because we communicate very well and takes care of me really well. He pays for our dates most of the time and gets me random gifts. I sometimes think he prioritizes me over himself (like buying new things for me over himself etc)
He does not really comment about my outfit that much whenever we go out, and he was always supportive. I personally care how i look whenever I go out, especially on dates because it makes me feel happy and more confident and I want to look good for the person I love. I've always been so supportive of him and i know that he doesn't really care about his appearance at all. It makes him happy so i let him be, but lately he's been caring a lot less whenever we see each other.
There was a time he went over wearing pants that had holes on it's back, we planned to go outside and it personally bothers me(it's a noticeable hole that might get bigger). He doesn't really care and i offered to buy him new shorts as a gift but he refuses. I opened up the idea of him getting a pamper day like having new haircut and buy new things for him but he doesn't take me seriously. He can afford to buy himself new stuffs he just most of the time happily spends it on me. I'm not comfortable with that and i want him to prioritize himself too by buying shit for himself. If i could only afford to make the same expenses things as he does i would've gotten him lots of gifts too but unfortunately i can't atm because im still studying that's why i proposed instead of buying random things for me or eating at an expensive place, i asked him to spend it on himself.
We usually only see each other once or twice a month so I really make an effort to look good whenever we hang out.I'm worried that my thoughts are bad and controlling, i really do love him and i just want the best for him but sometimes i wish he would take care of himself more :(
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