There's this girl I think I like. I've been on a few dates with her in the past 10 days. First night out we are vibing to music in my car parked in front of her house after drinking at some bar. After half an hour she tells me she must go and thanks me for the night. I ask her if I can kiss her before she leaves. She pauses and then tells me she just broke up with her ex and that she feels it's too soon for her to move on. I told her I respect that and tried hiding my disappointment and we both went our ways.
We still met the following day to party and a few days later I took her out for dinner and a few drinks. It was great and I must say that I really like spending time with her. However, keeping in mind what she told me on the first night, I didn't have anything in mind besides wanting to get to know her and wanting us to enjoy some good friendly time, although I already felt I wouldn't want to stop there in the near future.
Then comes the part where I think I fucked up. One night we were planning to go to some club with friends of mine. Before that we crashed at one of my friends place to drink with a small group before going out as I usually do. When walking to the club, she held my arm and pulled me a bit back so that we were walking a couple tens of meters behind the rest of the group. She then asked me if I wanted to play truth or dare. I think I must have blushed and kind of panicked as I felt she may have had something in mind. We just had time to do a meaningless dare before one of my friends walked back to us asking to move faster as the distance separating the group kept increasing (we were all quite drunk except for this guy). We didn't get further with our game and both went on drinking way too much. I still kept an eye on her for time to time but as I get drunker and drunker I don't have much on my mind except dancing and cracking jokes with the people around me. That's about what happened until early morning and everyone went back to their respective home.
It my sound like a childish story but just for context I don't have much if any dating experience even though I'm in my late twenties. I often feel very shy and uneasy with my feelings. I'm very social and like spending times like these but when flirting and love feelings come into play I often feel powerless. I regret not shooting my shot when the time seemed right and have been worried I blew my chances with her.
I think about her quite frequently and today I called her to ask her when she wanted to meet again. We agreed on meeting in two days. It feels like a long wait to me and it's also kind of stressful because I really feel like she might like me but I feel stuck between friendly platonic discussions and love bombing her, which doesn't seem like the thing to do either.
What's your opinion on the situation? I'm afraid telling her my side of the story flat would scare her, but I can't see any other way to tell her I like her and want more with her.
English is not my primary language so if anything is confusing to you just ask me to rephrase. Thanks for reading :)
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