"So, why are you still single?" "Why's a pretty girl like you still singl-" stop fucking asking me this shit. I again recently had a dude I gave my number to from one of the more serious dating websites ask me immediately once we got on the phone "So what's a pretty attractive girl like you doing on here, why are you still single?" Normally I'm more graceful with my response to this annoying ass question but this time I couldn't hide my annoyance and responded "I dunno, why are YOU still single, last I checked we are both single and on a dating site". "So why are you on this dating webs-". TO DATE. I'm here to date. I'm on this dating website to date. I dunno, why tf are YOU here? Unless you have some other motive perhaps? Murder perhaps? The irritating part is what it implies, as if you're pretty so you're just supposed to have found someone by now. Because it's just that simple and easy. Or that there may be something wrong with you. As if at a certain age you should have just met someone by now, I'm 29f btw. Oh really? I dunno, then why is 45 percent of the U.S population alone single? And if you expand that worldwide it'd probably be in the billions (don't quote me). Or better yet, why tf are you still single? In general, most people are single for a few reasons: haven't met the right person, recently out of a relationship, divorced, widowed, not in the best place for a relationship. I'm single and available that's all that fucking matters.
Dating isn't easy, it takes time and investment. Unless you happened to meet your SO through some lucky happenstance, then you're gonna be out here navigating this dating jungle which these days is more akin to trying to find a gem in the dumpster. Instead, how about asking "What are you seeking most?" "What are your goals and interests?" Where do you see yourself with someone in the future?" "What do you desire?". Much more thoughtful and insightful than "So, why are you still single??" insert doofus face here
Ok, rant over, thanks for making it this far.
tldr: I hate when men ask me why I'm still single. It's irritating because it implies that it's simple to find a mate, therefore you should have found one by now. Meanwhile they themselves are also single (damn hyppcrites). I'd prefer for men to ask more thoughtful questions such as what I would want out of a relationship, what my goals are, etc other than why am I single.
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