I see posts occasionally from people claiming that their appearance or racial background or some other factor limits their pool of dating candidates. It seems like with the prevalence of OLD there is now a heavy emphasis on a person's "macro" appeal to the dating "market", and a lot of efforts toward optimizing your appeal. As someone who works in a quantitative field, I certainly understand the temptation toward this mindset, but the question that I would ask is this: what is your ultimate endgame?
Yes, more matches on a dating app means more chances of meeting the right one. But unless you plan to date casually forever, there's not a whole lot of ROI in spending an inordinate amount of time trying to figure out how to appeal to candidates who aren't interested in you in the first place.
Quality is still >>>> Quantity when it comes to dating. The more you try to change yourself to appeal to many, the more you run the risk of losing what it is that could make you appeal to one.
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