Hey all, this is going to be a doozy so buckle up.
I've been crushing an this girl since the end of last year. We worked together for about four months, and we had a cat and mouse flirty relationship, towards the end it became clear that she was genuinely interested me. She asked for my number, steered our conversations to more personal subjects, hinted at date ideas, and made it clear she was single. I was hesitant, I knew I was crushing on her, but I was at the end of two years of focusing on myself and avoiding romantic relationships and I didn't want to date someone I worked with. Around the change of the year she put in her two weeks and was getting a job related to her degree. It made me realize that I definitely liked her, I really didn't want her to leave. I decided that it was time to give dating/romance another shot. On her last day at work we spend most every second we can talking to one another, I eventually mentioned the idea of going to a ramen shop that I knew we both liked. She was ecstatic and immediately accepted the invite. We meet at the restaurant later that night and we have an sorta awkward first date, we kinda stumble over conversation, retreading topic we discussed before while coworkers. We both still seemed engaged, just kinda nervous with one another. Anyway, she drops me off at my place, and my nerves get the better of me. We say we had fun, and suggest doing something again, but I hurry out the car right after. Over the next month, I ask her on a few outings but she always seems busy. A month goes by, and we run into each other at a bar after a parade. She runs over and gives me a hug and ask me to go to another bar with her and her friends. I walk with her to the next bar, we do a little catching up. We had both done ecstasy prior(Mardi Gras), and when we get to the next bar I lose her in the crowd of her friends. I'm pretty intoxicated and anxious, so I Irish goodbye and head home. The next more is a similar story, we have text conversations, but plans never materialize. At the beginning of the next month, March, I ask her to come to a birthday celebration for my cowork, her former coworker, and she accepts. We all meet at a bar and have a good time. She and I still seem to have chemistry and we do a fair bit flirting. She leaves the party before I do, but over the next two weeks we text more often and have longer conversations and things seem to be going great. Then Covid-19 shuts the country down. During quarantine we text each other every so often, but we don't see each other again until the end of July. We make plans at the start of the month, but it takes her a couple of week to find the time. To be fair, she works a 9-5, and I work nights and weekends. We go for a bike ride and then to the park, conversation is great, it seems really effortless. It gets dark, and we figure its time to call the evening. As we're parting she says she would go for a hug, but that she sweaty and and doesn't want to gross me out. I say something like "yeah, I'm pretty sweaty too" she laughs, and says we should do something again soon. Anyway, I bike home, and send her a meme about the feds abducting protesters in Portland. Something we talked about on our bike ride. We text a little bit more and then end he conversation. The next week I asked to get together again, she says she thinks she has some stuff going on, but says she'll keep me posted. I don't text or hear from her for two weeks, I send her a how are you text and don't get a response. At the start of this week, about a week and half later, I text her, and mentioned going to the park and catching up. She says she down to catch up, and to keep in touch. I tell her last night that I have the weekend off, I don't get a response until today. She apologizes, for the delay, and she says she has a lot going on this weekend, and that next week she is out of town, but maybe after she gets back.
When we text back and forth, she writes her messages like shes excited to talk to me, but she remains very elusive. Am I too aloof in allowing time to pass without talking to her? Should I get a clue and move on?
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