I met this girl online and we cliked like easily. We talk a while online before moving to whatsapp.
Talking about her, she started by complaining a lot about her current boyfriend (now, ex boyfriend, if I can trust the information, you'll see why down the line). He is toxic, boring in bed. The ex makes her cry, she comes and tell me that. Tell me to stop writing to her when he is around, says he is scary and a lot of others things. .Classical complaining script. And she told that just one guy in her is the one she got postive views about. I don't know him by the way.
I told myself : oh a girl unhappy in a relationship. Let's be a good person. We all deserve happiness and if I contribute to someone else happiness while having mine, why not ? Then, she planned a meeting, cancelled it, apologized. And we kept talking. New meeting, then ghost me during the day, made me waste my whole day cause I freed my schedule to meet her. Planned two more, cancelled them again.
At this point, I was like : if she plan something, I won't have any exceptations. If she comes, OK. If she doesn't, OK.
In the meantime, I planned some too. Simple thing, external meetings to make her comfortable. She rejected them. She then admitted that she is a anxious person, who's afraid to meet new people, and she told me a bit about her life, childhood and things I can't say cause I promised I won't. And that is like 2 weeks of talking, 2-3 meetings cancelled. I stayed patient. That's in my nature or I'm dumb. LOL.
She has good sides. It's not like she is an horrible person. (Or I'm dumb one more time. I'm highly confused). One night, before going to bed, I saw a video about avoidant people and how they act. I connected the dots between what she told me about her family and the way she act. This is a diagnostic I made from learning about that thing like 2 weeks ago. This pushed me to add patience to my patience. I think I would have deleted her number that night if this video didn't pop up on my youtube feed.
She is apparently still talking to the ex, he makes her cry, she comes and tell me that. Tell me to stop writing to her when he is around, says he is scary and a lot of others things.
Few days ago, I planned to go watch a movie, invited her along. Again, open space, public space. She said she'll try to be there. Few hours before the session, she canceled AGAIN.
And that is what is bringing me here is advices :
Should I block her and move on ? I don't like the idea of blocking people. .Should I talk to her about it ? She knows I'm interested. She seemed interested. I'm not even looking for a relationship necessarily. I just want to meet, confirm, check that she is who she is. Maybe I'm talking to a old dude sending me AI photos ( This is joke cause we had a short video call where I saw her face).
So please be real, don't sugarcoat the advices. I prefer the real advices and that way, I'll know my next moves. Maybe she is a great person who need time, and I don't want to regret leaving a great person cause I was impatient. And at the same time, I don't want to waste my time. So thanks for being real.
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