I see lots of posts about people not being able to find someone. They usually involve online dating and casual meetings at bars/clubs/cafes. One thing I think is over looked is the fact that most people have forgotten how important it is to make eye contact. Anyone can scan the room (or profiles), and based on their visual perception, initiate contact with their target. That's all fine and dandy, but I've noticed that people rarely make eye contact with regular random people with whom they don't think they'd be interested in, whether it's the guy behind the counter taking your order or the people walking past you on the sidewalk. I'm not saying you should go out and challenge people to staring contests, but the ability to make eye contact with random people is a HUGE factor in being perceived as 'approachable'.
People don't realize just how much they limit themselves from finding a suitable mate because they're always in their phones, and when they aren't, they stare at the ground or into outer space to avoid some kind of awkward feeling of vulnerability. They do themselves a disservice. It's far easier to get to know someone as they want to be perceived rather than who they really are, by reading about them on a profile and then text chatting, but it doesn't compare to foundational bond that can be formed from the start by hearing someone tell you about themselves while they look you in the eye. It's a lot harder to pretend to be something you're not in the flesh than it is online.
I met my husband by random chance. We worked in the same building, different departments for ~2 years before we actually knew the other even existed. One afternoon, we walked right past each other on the sidewalk outside and our eyes met and locked for a good 5 seconds , and then we continued on our way. Not gonna lie, his eyes gave me a sense of intrigue and curiosity and I'm pretty sure he felt the same. He approached me later that day when he noticed me in the lobby, 9 years ago, and now we're married. It really can happen that fast and that easily. Just look up and smile...ESPECIALLY if you think they're out of your league, or range, or whatever. :)
I'm not saying that's how it will work out that way for everyone. My point is that you can't expect to meet the love of your life if you aren't receptive to the opportunities to do so. Looking up at the people around you and making eye contact will allow you to be more approachable. Put the phone down, lose the RBF, and you will be in a better position to meet someone with whom to form a real relationship. That is all. Just smile and make eye contact....Good luck!
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