I (39f) and my bf (39m) have been together 4.5 years. I live almost an hour away but I try to go to his house almost every weekend. His mom and 2 dogs passed away over the summer so it's been a tough year. He never had a real girlfriend before me. He dated some when he was younger but was mostly single. He suffers from anxiety so I don't like to push him or make him do things he doesn't like. He doesn't really come to my house because he feels more comfortable at his house and I don't mind because theres nothing to do at my house and I like having an "escape " and going to his house. We have severe communication issues. I have a hard time bringing up any issues because we see so little of each other I don't want to ruin the time we do have. The thing is I'm super freaking lonely. We had a talk about the future last weekend and he pretty much said he is never leaving his dad. His dad is great but especially since his mom passed his dad has been wanting everything his way only kind of thing. The house is just filthy and I try to clean up when I'm there but I can tell his dad doesn't like it. He said the only option is if we could build a house across the street on property they own but I know that's never going to happen. It seems so crazy to me that he is not going to have his own life probably until hes 60. I kinda resigned myself to the fact that this is how its going to be and I don't want anyone but him but I'm getting in a bad place mentally. I kind of feel like I have no future to build towards, having to get through everyday is becoming pure misery since I'm so depressed. I could move closer but I'll have to save up for a while and I do have 2 sons 18 and 15 so I probably wouldn't even move until they are out on their own. I just don't know what to do but I cant go on feeling this sad.
[link] [comments]
from Dating Advice https://ift.tt/3npiTNq
via IFTTT
No comments:
Post a Comment