Let's get right to it, shall we?
I've (30F) been seeing this guy, Leo (30M), for over a year. We live 5 minutes away from each other, but funnily enough, met on a video game (can you believe that? what are the odds...). This guy and I clicked immediately. We make each other laugh, we spend hours on the game together, we love the same things, watch the same shows, etc. For the majority of the year, there was a huge emphasis on it only being "Friends with Benefits"--reasons being he had a full-time job, he is a full-time student and a full-time introvert. Originally, I went along with it because I understand that he didn't have time for a relationship and if this meant I got to keep him in my life, I'm in.
Fast forward to this summer, there was a definite shift between us. We spent more time together on the weekends, he'd talk to me in the little spare time he had outside of work/school, he made me feel safe when we were together, and we could be our true selves around each other. It is bliss when I'm with him. It has reached the point now that I feel like we're in love when we're together. I know it's not just me, I know he's feeling it too. So why, when we revisit the conversation of "us" about 6 months later, he tells me he loves what we're doing, doesn't want to change anything, and doesn't want to put a label on it because labels "change everything"? He blames past relationships on his decision and reiterates that he likes me a lot/cares about me. It feels impossible to move on from this after investing so much time, effort, and care into this. I really, really like this guy and want him in my life. I know I want commitment and I know I want to call him my boyfriend. And in my eyes, if we put a label on it, nothing essentially changes for me. It just guarantees safety, loyalty, and knowing we're heading in the right direction. So my options are: let him go because a "no labeled relationship" doesn't fulfill me OR stay because I'm in love with him and I don't want to do life w/o him. I hate both options.
If you were in my position, what would you do? And if you've already BEEN in my position, any advice?
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