Just typing all this out to try and work this out in my brain, I'd also appreciate some input and I'd like to hear if you've had similar experiences.
I'm a late bloomer, I'm in my late 20s and only started putting myself out there recently. I met someone also late 20s, we've hung out a few times and have been intimate. We've been seeing each other over a month, once a week/two weeks. He has made it clear that he does not want something serious, he's focusing on his career right now. As for me, I'm open to both casual and serious. I think. I like the fun and intimacy. I don't like it when he doesn't reach out for long periods of time though. I know myself, I can get needy (although I don't show it and stew in my own neediness) and I get in my head when he mentions his women friends, one of whom he's sleeping over at this week for a trip. I know I really shouldn't feel like this because things are casual. He's very respectful though, he buys dinner and cooks for me, and always reminds me that I don't owe him anything.
I'm trying to figure out if it's a good idea to keep this thing going, especially because some of my needs aren't being met- consistent communication and caring if I'm even alive those days we don't talk to each other. At the same time though, I do like spending time with him when we do, and it's nice to have some fun and intimacy in my life right now. Ultimately I'm seeking a long-term serious relationship but since I can't find that right now, this set up seems pretty good? In the back of my head though, I'm asking myself if I'm wasting my time. I dunno. To add, I'm not good at seeing multiple people, though I probably should get better at that.
I know I have to talk to him about how I'm feeling, we're pretty open and talk about anything. In the beginning he told me he won't be sleeping with other people once we start but I still don't know if that's the case, I'll bring it up. I think we just both need to be explicit, especially me.
Soooo, it's nice, but also not. Shouldn't overthink, but I do.
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