"Well, are you gonna have a relationship with the main girl or her friend? Obviously with the main girl! Then why the FUCK are you focusing on her friend?"
That's probably what you're thinking, and that's what I would have thought years ago. However, I have had some bad experiences in love that all start with her closest friend giving me a bad vibe.
It's not that I wanna police my hypothetical SO's relationships, not at all. I see it more like your friends are a internal part of you, and if I don't like your closest friend, there is then a part of you I don't like.
Also, while I really REALLY like this main girl... I think she's a bit weak on the character side. Meaning, I think her friend can influence her without her noticing. If I ever get into a dispute with her friend, I'm afraid she can start influencing the main girl into disliking me, and this would become into me having a relationship with the main girl AND her friend, which is a big no-no. I dislike it when people can't be independent in their decisions, or at least, that's how I think about the main girl.
So, if I seem so sure about my answer... why am I posting here for advice? Because, I think is a bit unrealistic to expect I will find a girl whose friends I don't dislike. Is it possible to have a healthy relationship with someone whose friends you dislike? Because I really don't think of myself being able to do that, I just don't wanna play that social game, it's exhausting, I have already been there before.
Thanks for reading! :)
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