So I've been on Hinge dating around and mentally I'm in the best place I've been. I'm settled professionally and have lost a good chunk of weight and am fit.
Dating now definitely feels different than it did before. I am much more able to just have fun and I feel women are very receptive to it. I just try to be genuine and authentic and I've had much much much more success than before.
BUT
Once I meet someone that I feel a genuine connection with (more than just physical chemistry and shallow laughs) I feel like I don't know what to do with it. I start to get in my head. I'll feel the moment and at a time when I'd kiss her (because you just FEEL it) I don't. I just stop being my fun loving, funny, charming self and shrink up.
I have done a ton of work on myself to get to my current point. From fixing my sleep, cutting out marijuana and cigarettes, being more social, pursuing side projects. I've been on psych meds for about 6 months and I have felt great with them, and next week I have my first therapy appointment because I'd like to level up and be a better person.
How can I continue to be my loveable fun loving self, AFTER I get some feels. When it's purely physical chemistry and banter, I feel very much in my element. After that though, I'm lost.
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