So this is half an unpopular opinion and second half a bit of (albeit anecdotal) dating advice for some guys out there with my situation.
This past year, my goal was to get back into the dating scene and improve my other skills. I came to a revelation pretty quickly that I was weak at the first start but great once I got the ball rolling when it came to conversations.
So, I took on a new approach. Started out with a brief few DMs and then just was upfront about how I preferred to “get to know them better in-person”. So, knowing that there are some women out there that will just go on dates for the sake of a free-meal, I chose to spice things up.
A game of pool at a local bar, a bowl of wings, don’t gotta stay or commit to a anything that you don’t want to. This, turned out to be very effective. I’d land three dates with this, first one we did not vibe at all. She was stuck up and kept talking about her exes.
Second was actually really laid back, just that she decided to bail. I got the jest and chose to move on.
The third? She sunk the 8 ball in game one, but came back to beat me in a two out of three series. We’ve been together since December now and she is the best. I frequent that place still and go by to shoot some pockets at the end of my work-week. Sure, a lot of the other patrons are in their thirties. But it did wonders for me.
I can’t help but wonder how different things would have been if I just chose dinner or coffee.
So if you’re like me and need a good pivot point for a conversation, try something with an activity that the other person can walk away from.
Just wanted to share this since one of the bartenders talked with me yesterday about how he was surprised I “didn’t have a new girl with me”. Just a good laugh we had.
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