I’ve been on a few dates before that have gone really well and ended with makeout sessions and aggressive touching in the back of my car. I really appreciate the slow build ups to intimacy so i dont like to have any type of sex on the first date. But a few times this exact scenario has played out where after a point the girl will ask me to get a condom or suggest going down on me to which i’ll usually reply something like “i want to make you wait for it, we can take things further next time”. Nothing mean, and in the moment they’ve taken it well, but after the date is over i’ll get unmatched or told they dont want a second date.
I understand the issue is that likely they feel a little rejected, or undesired, or potentially sexually frustrated but i also have a right to take things at a speed i feel comfortable with. So how do i escalate sexual tension and deescalate in a way thats not damaging to the girl’s feelings?
PS its not like these dates had any expectations of being hookups prior to the date. These are the types of girls that have “noo hook ups or ONS” in their bio lol
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