I (33F) have been dating my (30M) boyfriend for about three months. Everything has felt so good and like a breath of fresh air. Except for one issue, his jealousy. I have several guy friends who I have had absolutely no sexual or romantic connection to. Think, people who I work out with, go for walks with our dogs etc. I have seen my friend twice since meeting my boyfriend and every single time my boyfriend gets very upset. Saying that he doesn’t care, but then not talking to me and saying he won’t come over to see me as originally planned. He’s accused me of hooking up with my one friend but then says he trusts me and knows I wouldn’t do that. We’ve talked about this and he has shared being cheated on in his past two serious relationships. I can understand that fear and insecurity but I have worked really hard to communicate and be transparent with him about my friendships and life in general. I have asked if he’s upset to please communicate that to me and let me know if he needs space, versus stonewalling me. But I have not seen that progress. He tells me he’s fine and “doesn’t care” but then acts like this. Is it appropriate of me to want to maintain my friendships with the opposite sex? Should I be saying “you’re uncomfortable I will end these friendships”. I have said that I would be willing to work with him on what would make him feel more comfortable if I am hanging out with them. He’s been invited to join and has said no. I offered to call/text throughout for reassurance and he says no. I’m not sure how to handle this or what is a typical type of jealousy to have within a relationship? Please any and all advice is welcomed because I am questioning myself within this dynamic.
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