Lovers to "Friends" to Lovers? Is that even a thing??

Tell me your stories about lovers to friends to lovers, if such a thing even exists outside of movies and TV!

Background:

I (28F) was surprised by the guy(29M) I've been seeing for a month or so randomly told me that although he really likes me, that I tick off all his boxes, he's sexually attracted to me, and that he wants to be in my life that he thinks we need to stop seeing each other romantically. It blindsided me because every day last week leading up to the day I got the call, he had been reaching out and sending me sweet messages as if he were still interested in us. I was crushed.

For context, I'm about to kickoff an intense 3 months for my career. He said he usually feels a "spark" with the women he's previously had long relationships with after a few weeks and although the compatibility is there, he hasn't felt the "spark" yet. He also shared he's confused about why he doesn't feel the spark if everything (sexual chemistry, banter, goals, humor, connection, culture etc) are in alignment, but I'm not going to dive into that since I really didn't need to hear him say it out loud and it made me feel worse that all the things that seem like a partnership were there except for a "spark." He said he met with a friend in a similar career field (maybe that psyched him out?), and after hearing their experience he doesn't want to mess up this important period of my life I'm starting if he's not feeling the spark yet even though he had wanted to give it more time. He wants to be friends. He even said he plans to reach out when this period is over (I had suggested it since he wanted to begin immediately) to try and work on being friends.

I don't know if I can be friends with this person. I genuinely really liked him and, for me, I do truly feel a spark. Part of me is hoping maybe when we do reconnect in a few months he'll realize how stupid he was and realize all of those things *were* the spark? Have any of you ever done lovers to friends to lovers and it works? Is it wacky that I'm tempted to go back on my own boundary and make plans for Memorial Day?

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