It doesnt come naturally to me to be unavailable/ detached/ desensitized. But I become cold/ silent when I'm going through things in life.
I'm naturally very sensitive and attached. Even talking to a guy every day for 2 weeks is enough to attach me to him. And I do things like initiate things, schedule dates, text him/ reply soon, etc. I'm more proactive (more of a chaser).
But I have noticed they get tired of it after a while. The guys I have had talking stages with have all behaved this way - very interested initially but then losing interest when they got to know I like them so much. It's WORST when they come to know you like them more than they like you, even if they had approached first. They get turned off.
But when I leave them they ALWAYS try to come back, as well as when I become distant / selfish in general (when I'm dealing with things) MORE men flock to me. They literally approach me directly when I'm showing 0 enthusiasm. When you cancel plans they'll reschedule things but not leave. When you behave rudely / coldly they'll keep trying to find ways to talk to you.
But when you're the one making the efforts they behave opposite.
It's like the more "right" the things I do, the wronger they go.
The more efforts, available and present I am, the more it repels them; while being cold/ distant attracts them and keeps them around. wtf?
Why does this happen? Do others also experience this?
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