Hey! I just recently stumbled onto here, but I figure I should give it a shot!
So I'm recently graduated from college, with a bachelor's in graphic design and a minor in Marketing. I'm from Puerto Rico, and while I am attached to the island since it's my birthplace and home, the situation right now isn't good and being a recently graduated student doesn't have jobs pouring out of nowhere. It's very difficult to live in this island, and my boyfriend of 3 years also acknowledges that. Right now, he's getting his MA in Psychology in Puerto Rico as well, and I'm willing to wait for him to graduate so we can start getting ready to move. We originally want to go to Texas.
But the problem is that right now, I'm not exactly happy. A lot of really personal things have been happening, and as of now, I've frequently contemplated leaving to California. My brother lives there, and has made multiple offers since graduation to help me get a rental apartment, a job, etc. I appreciate his support so much, and I feel like I can have a pretty good chance. I'm even contemplating leaving with my boyfriend once he graduates; I still want to live in Texas tho, and all this would be tor me to gain more life experience as well as professional experience and stabilize before such a drastic decision.
But the thing is that he doesn't want to leave. He said that when he graduates with his MA, he won't leave like we had planned because he feels responsible to his family. And that struck me so hard; I tried to empathize with him, and I tried not to be selfish, but I couldn't help but think about my own future. My future is not in this island, and I firmly believe that. I also don't want to take care of people that I don't consider family, personally. They are the sweetest people and are true genuine sweethearts but... Idek.
I feel like I'm being really selfish, and should just go ahead and follow his lead until we can leave to Texas... god knows when.
Our relationship is wonderful. Very little arguments, we're both incredibly supportive of each other, and I honestly believe we are in this for the long haul, if not forever.
So what should I do? I'm honestly torn between the two. Because my boyfriend is important to me, but so is my professional and adult future.
TL;DR: I want to move for my future, but my boyfriend would rather stay for his family.
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