A couple of weeks back I met this amazing guy on a dating app. We immediately liked each other and we exchanged our socials.
Needless to say I fell for him pretty quickly. He checks all my boxes and lives an amazing life, so much so that I think he's way out of my league. I feel very insecure about myself, I'm an introvert and I'm inexperienced as far as dating goes (only one relationship).
We never met as we live in different continents but he has seen me in many pictures and videocalls. He says he's very attracted to me and I shouldn't be worried about my looks because I'm his type. He stresses this a lot.
So here I am, after just a week since we started chatting I booked an intercontinental flight and a double room for two weeks where he lives. We are gonna meet for the first time in less than 4 weeks. I wanted to visit his country anyway and I have some people over there that can take me sightseeing. Worst case scenario I get to spend an amazing holiday traveling solo and meeting new people, right?
I still have some concerns tho.
He's a very bad texter, he takes hours to reply to my messages and suddenly leaves for 30/40 minutes in the middle of a conversation. He's much more comfortable videochatting, he opens up more on video and even after we end the call he wants to text for a while. My explanation to this behaviour is that he's always out and about living a busy life and kinda forgets about me, then when he sees me he wants to interact more. This makes perfectly sense for two people who are not in a relationship yet, but he says he's ready for a long distance relationship with me after we meet. I don't think I will able to tolerate messaging him only once or twice a day, will he change once things get serious? I raised this concern to him and he says that it's totally his fault but that he really likes me and he will try his best to improve (still no improvement).
Why me? Why choose me over the hundred of people he meets (he's very popular and a low-key Instagram celebrity). He repeats like a mantra how much he's into me and that we are matched like no other. I made the drastic decision to meet him so soon because otherwise I wouldn't be able to travel until next year, and we both agreed that if we didn't meet soon we probably we better off not starting a relationship online.
I made it clear that he should feel no pressure about 'having' to like me (since I'm investing so much just to meet him). He talks a lot about sex and believes it's very important in a relationship (me too), so I even said that if he just wants to hook up for two weeks with no commitment afterwards he should tell me now, because for me it would be okay too. I told him he doesn't have to fake interested in a relationship just to sleep with me. When I told him this he was upset that I thought he was faking interest or that I don't believe when he tells me how much he likes me. He sounds sincere when he expresses his feelings towards me but I wonder how many selfish people get off at the idea of luring someone across the world just to fuck and then ghost them.
What do you guys think?
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