To start off, I'm 22, male, just graduated college, a virgin, and at home living with the parents (cool, right?)
I've dealt with depression and anxiety for about a decade now, and in the last 6 months I've made astounding progress. I feel like a healthy and confident young man now, and I want to start putting myself out there. I just don't really know how to, because most of the past years I've been trying to just survive the day by day.
A lot of people make my virginity a big deal. One girl didn't want to be with me because "Well I can't be your first. I can't handle that responsibility". It kind of hurts to be shut down just for being yourself, you know? I've had opportunities to have sex, a few times in college I've had women that wanted to sleep with me, but I'm not interested in hooking up with someone. I've always seen sex as the most intimate two people can be with each other- not a casual thing. I'm not so naive that I'm looking to give my virginity to "the one", I just want it to be with someone I care about. Should I be hiding my virginity? Is it that negative of a thing? I'm not ashamed of it, but a lot of people have made me feel as though I should be.
Next is that I'm living at home with my parents which makes socializing rough as hell- but with just having graduated, student loans, and the potential that I'll be going back to get a master's degree next year, it'd be financially stupid to get a place of my own (and I'm grateful to my parents for what they do for me). I'm either landing a job that pays well with just my bachelors, and if I don't then it's back to college for a masters. How can I get around the stigma that comes with still living with your parents? I can't really bring a woman home to spend one on one time with them, and some women see it as a huge turn off. Should I just put off dating for when I move out/go to college again?
And lastly, what are just some tips for meeting women in general? I'm pretty comfortable in social situations nowadays, and I'm not too keen on dating apps. I don't do much social media because I prefer to live life in person, not through a screen (ironic since I'm typing this on Reddit)
TL;DR I'm a virgin and I'm ok with it, but should I not be? I live with my parents because it's a place of love and I'm a broke ass college grad looking for work- how do I get around it? Meet women- how do?
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