Hello! I recently met a guy through hinge and we went on 4 dates where we made out during all 4 dates. I had to admit that I was physically attracted to him and enjoyed spending time together. Then he told me he’s not ready for a relationship and looking for something casual and fun. I agreed to the casual and fun part because I enjoyed spending time with him and not dating anyone else at the moment. Then at night, 2 days before we were supposed to meet again, he texted me what am I doing and then proceeded with what I was wearing underneath and asked me to send him photos of my body, which I stated/texted multiple times that it’s something I’m not comfortable with.
I initiated a call with him, hoping that would be easier to communicate to set my boundaries, as I told him that I’m not comfortable with sending photos and hope he can respect that. He said a part of fun and causal is to sex on the phone/video chat and refused to actually go on a 5th date and ended it because he said refusing to do things on the phone is a big incompatibility, even thought I kept saying we could do fun things in person.
For me, I didn’t want to do it because anything could be recorded (though I did “trust” that he won’t record anything) but I wanted to be careful as an abundance of caution and this is not something I’m comfortable with and we are not in a relationship nor steering towards for.
I’ve been out of the dating scene for a while, is “doing things” on the phone a part of the expectation for casual relationship now or did I dodge a bullet?
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