I know, I know. I'm 100% in agreement with don't shit where you eat but please hear me out. I'm just here looking for some advice.
First, heres a small backstory. I got out of an 8 year relationship last February, and im finally at a point in my life where im ready to be hurt again. I mention this because outside of a few tinder hookups, I haven't had real feelings for another person or even been on a real date in NINE YEARS.
I'm going to ramble, so apologizes in advance;
I (30M) started my current job in November of last year after moving back home and basically restarting my life from scratch. I LOVE this job. I have a very good team, and were all basically a family.
At first, I didn't even consider I could fall for a coworker, since I never have before. I'm usually good at keeping my work and personal life separate. But, she (34F) is different. I'm not a self-destructive person, but despite all the risks with this situation, the alarm bells are not ringing, and that's just odd for me since im usually very realistic.
I have no idea when or why or how I started to fall for her but holy SHIT, it was like I was hit by a truck. This is different, it feels different then anything I've ever felt for someone. I'm a very logical thinker, so I really don't think I'm overexaggerating or anything like that, but that's why im here tbh.
We just click. Its never hard to get her to laugh, and I genuinely want to make her happy or to make her laugh literally so I can see her smile. I notice so many things I never noticed in my ex, other partners, and even myself. Up until recently I was happy and content being single, but now its different. This FEELS different. My heart feels like it wants to beat out of my chest when I'm near her, and all I want to do when were on shift together is talk, make her laugh, try to impress her, etc.
I've been going back and forth on if its just her kindness or if she's actually interested as well. I know she's single and looking for a partner. She compliments me, tells me I'm cute when I interact with customers, tells me consistently that she wants someone with emotions and kindness. We have opened up to each other about our past relationships, and she always seems eager to talk to me, too. Tells me how she misses me when im not in, and that we need to fix our schedules so we work more together.
With all that being said, I'm dense and a bit of a hopeless romantic, but this just feels different. I cant really explain it in other ways without sounding like a lunatic, lol. Like how did this happen?
I need good advice on this, because I know if it backfires in anyway, that's it. I will again lose everything. Like, I get that. I fully understand that. BUT, I don't know if I can just... give up without even trying. That is why im here.
Thank you to everyone who responds.
TLDR; I'm falling for my coworker, hard. It doesn't feel like other relationships or people I've had crushes on before. I know fully well this can backfire and set my life on fire, but I still want to risk everything anyway. Please advise.
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