I've been dating this amazing guy on/off for the past 11 months. When we first started dating, he had weeks ago gotten out of an 8 year relationship (his ex came out and they broke up amicably). We had crazy chemistry, and just clicked. We tried to take things slow, but things felt like a relationship After 3 months, he told me wasn't ready for a relationship (fair) and was thinking of moving, but still wanted to keep dating. I felt like I wanted a relationship, and felt I was more committed to us than he was, and thought he needed to be on his own as an adult for awhile and figure things out before he can be with anyone.
We broke up for 4 months, after which he came back and told me he felt ready to commit. I'm ecstatic. Hours later, he tells me that he actually doesn't know if he is ready for a relationship. I freak out and tell him thats really uncool of him to do to me, and he's not ready, he can please leave me alone. He doesn't want to lose me so he says he will try. Well, we've been trying for about 4 months. And I'm falling more and more in love with him, but he keeps pushing me away the closer I get. He still can't say we're in a relationship, even though we hang out 4-5 nights a week, have met each others friend, etc. He'll be really sweet and romantic one minute, and then push me out of the house, be distant, not include me in things the next. He told me the other day he still doesn't know if he is ready for a relationship, but he can see a future with me, and has never felt this way about anyone. It makes me wonder if he is just saying all this so when he DOES hurt me, he doesn't feel like the bad guy since he warned me. I understand why he wasn't ready for a relationship when we first met, but it has been ELEVEN months now. I'm scared that if he can't commit by now, maybe he never will be. I'm so confused. I love him, and I know he loves me, even if he hasn't said it yet. But am I being a fool for waiting for him?
tldr: dating on/off for 11 months and he still isn't sure if he is ready for a girlfriend
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