I've tried many times on Tinder, Bumble, POF, Match and other online dating sites but so far I've only gotten one date out of all my efforts. I've tried many pictures from vacations, with animals, under waterfalls, on cliffs, with tripods with timers, taken by friends/family, etc. I don't know what else I can try in terms of picture variety, and I've not seen any difference. I've tried many bios as well and nothing different has happened.
I've posted my profile before online and people said it was good and they think I should do well. I notice Tinder feedback threads are full of the same things. There are lots of guys who are similar to me who are not getting anywhere and wondering what they're doing wrong, while people say their profiles are fine.
Here's a few from the past two weeks alone:
Example 1:26M Teacher who likes salsa, hiking, and art - says he's had no luck on dating apps or IRL despite being extroverted and social in his activities.https://i.imgur.com/lcNGKoFhttps://i.imgur.com/rLSkB26
Example 2:Med student who likes surfing - says he's been using Tinder and got one match only in the past month who ghosted him.https://i.imgur.com/a/gOEWYz8
Example 3:Chemistry Grad Student who is not having a lot of success and is wondering what he's doing wrong.https://i.imgur.com/a/jgJj3UG
Example 4:27M therapist who says people have told him his profile is good over and over but he's not getting matches and doesn't know what to do.https://i.imgur.com/a/jDd2Owx
Example 5:21M who says he hasn't had any luck lately and is considering remaking his profile, looking for feedback on how.https://i.imgur.com/a/jLocpaU
Example 6:Recent pharmacist graduate wondering "Why is it so hard out there for a brown pimp like me?"https://i.imgur.com/a/5RgVvNP
Example 7:21M getting one match a month looking for guidance on anything he can do.https://i.imgur.com/a/JWuP8KQ
I showed some of these to my mom for perspective and she can't understand why they are all struggling. She doesn't understand why I am struggling either.
Is there something we are all missing here? Why do people keep telling us our profiles are good but we can't get matches or dates? What are we all doing wrong? What should we be doing differently?
I just want to be able to get a date every now and then. Is that a reasonable goal if I'm in roughly the same level as the guys above? If so, how can I do that?
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