Hey everyone,
I'm going on a laid back date with a guy I met on Tinder on Monday. And while I can't wait, I'm also nervous. My last relationship ended absolutely horribly. My ex was emotionally abusive and an excellent liar who tried to sexually assault me but ended up spinning the story around to the point he was telling people I was crazy and I attacked him. And some people actually believed him. He was also a borderline alcoholic. I tried to save him but he ended up almost dragging me down with him. Anyway... I cried, talked, journaled... I got over it. I am now happy, in a good place, excited about the future!
But I am no longer naive and I want to take any potential relationship extra slow. And here is where my question comes in... How and when do I talk to the guy about my past and that I want to take things slowly?
Because... I don't want to freak anyone out... I don't want them to think I'm way overthinking stuff and obsessing over futute. But I also don't want them to think I'm leading them on and then suddenly saying "stop"!
I'm also the kind of person who is allll about trust. And I feel like if people don't know my story, they don't know me. And this, unfortunately, is a big part of my story. I feel like I'm hiding something and I don't like that feeling.
I also don't have much experience in dating world because with my exes, we just kinda ended up together, we didn't really date.
Thanks!
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