I’m a Junior in high school, and my partner is the same. We’ve only been dating a few months, but were talking way before. I care about this person and think out of everyone in my life right now, she is absolutely the only one I could date and be happy with. I can’t imagine being with other people.
But her habits in life and goals for the future are different from mine. I look at the relationship mostly as what I can do day by day, and I think it’s pretty good so I don’t want to break up or anything. But If I am to hope to make this work out In the long run, at what point do I decide we just won’t fit together later on?
The thing is, after we got together she hit a bit of a personal rough patch with her personal life (I.E falling behind in school, lacking motivation or ambition, rough family life). She wants to make things better for herself, but it’s been really hard for her. She even suggested taking time apart to better herself, but didn’t want to end the relationship entirely (currently on the break, but talking). She doesn’t have a lot of wants or goals for the future, and isn’t someone who naturally wants to be productive and do things like I am. I don’t want to part with her at all at the moment, none of these things would make me want to end things atm. But we are so young I don’t know if these things will last.
This is my first relationship. I haven’t a clue if it’s possible to make things work if I want to go to university and work hard, while she wants to maybe stop at manager of a store. I’m hoping things will get better naturally, and maybe that’s what some of y’all can tell me. I’m just wondering what happens if it doesn’t.
I love her for everything I know her to be, but I know lasting means being able to co-exist. Is it possible?
Maybe even just think of this as a general question, do lifestyles matter if you have other things in common, and just love eachother?
TL:DR; too young to fully know if our lifestyle goals for the future can co exist. Any general advice or stories from experience that can be shared? Am I overthinking and being cynical? Thank you!
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