I met him at work, and he seemed like the friendliest, down to earth guy. Not only was he so nice to everyone, but he's also good looking. Initially, didn't look at him in that light but felt like we could click together well. He asked for my instagram and we had a mutual friend, and he asked me if i was close to her and whether i talked to her often (this was the FIRST RED FLAG). Brushed it away, and as time passed by, he flirted with me hardcore through DMs and did little things for me like buying me drinks or snacks, even cooking for me and bringing me a jacket on a cold rainy day. Of course, never had a guy in my years of life that would go to the extent of cooking and doing everything for me just when we're in the talking stage. Couldn't help but to fall hard and deep. What more could i ask for, a charismatic, handsome, kind-hearted guy that'll do so much for me? Eventually, he managed to convince me to text him with his number, and kept giving signals like "oh you'll have to ask me out HAHAH", "what about the place you told me we'll go to?", etc. so much more that I can't even put into one reddit post.
But there was a gut feeling, telling me that he was playing. Of course I wouldn't have followed it, cos I wanted to believe that he was a good guy. Until one day, spoke about him to another female coworker and she mentioned that he flirts with EVERYONE and that he tried flirting with her until he found out she was taken. The things he said to her and to me were completely different, the fact that he told her he never had any experience in relationships and that he lied to both of us, to manipulate us in different ways. I decided to follow my gut this time and ask about him to my mutual friend.
My mutual friend confirmed everything, saying he's lying, manipulative, insincere, extremely flirty w every girl and even a cheater. He cheated on his ex girlfriend with his EX EX girlfriend?? who the fk even does that... And hence I was hurt, so I began to cut down on replies and gave longer time before responding to slowly distance myself. Him being quite fast to pick up, I guess he figured it out that I could see his patterns and he TURNED it around, he left me on read and completely ignored me in front of my coworker by not greeting me and pretending I wasn't there. I'm honestly filled with disgust, anger and sadness because I can't believe that all this happened to me and I should've seen the red flags earlier.. I'm just extremely hurt by the fact that he not only flirted online, but took things offline by doing things for me and making my feelings grow to eventually cut me off so coldly without any reasons.
I don't know how I'll get over it and I know I'll have trust issues after this... advice? :(
Edit: no, didn't do anything with him like dates or wtv either or any physical things because personally I don't initiate that until I know I'm in a stable relationship with someone. Was planning on asking him out, but glad that I didn't.
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