Yes, COViD has absolutely obviously made meeting people harder in 2020 specifically but that’s not what I’m insinuating to in the title of my post at all.
The problem I’m referring to is that people have way too many options now more than ever before. You would think this would actually help you meet someone but the opposite effect is happening; because there are so many options (especially for women), you are essentially way less likely to want to commit knowing someone else better is right around the corner.
Social media, dating apps, porn etc are just some of the things to blame for why it’s harder to find commitment. You match with someone on Hinge, seem to have great chemistry and then boom...someone more attractive with a better personality comes along and you’re ghosted; it’s an endless cycle.
Regardless of whether you’re meeting out in the wild at a bar or work, using dating apps or wherever else, just because you’ve met someone doesn’t mean you’re safe from breakups down the road or being ghosted. This is why (in my opinion) non traditional relationships such as poly and being open are becoming more popular because you get to have your cake and eat it too. The Divorce rate in the U.S is higher than ever before and still going up and I understand why...people just get bored and/or cheat.
Now don’t get me wrong, not for one second am I suggesting monogamy doesn’t work, it’s just that most are no longer willing to settle like they use to and the standards have been raised by quite a bit.
I’m not making this post to spread negativity, in fact just the opposite. This subreddit is about asking for advice, but all I see are people telling each other “work on yourself” or “sounds like you’re not ready for a relationship” bleh.
Relationships are hard, finding someone to give you more than 5 minutes of their time in 2020 is harder. If you’re someone like me who’s in this sub wondering if there is something wrong with yourself because you can’t meet someone, don’t worry about it. There are thousands of single people just like you waiting to meet their special person.
I think it’s about time we start advising basic common courtesy instead of telling people to better themselves. 🤷🏽♂️
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