I've been trying to find a girlfriend for quite a while now, but I never "get out" since most of my time has gone into college, work, exercising, and my family business. Thus, I have spent a lot of time on dating apps like Tinder, OKCupid, and Match. Every time I get fed up with one app, I just delete it and create an account on another. I recently created a Tinder profile for like the third time in two years, but the problem always seems to be the same -- even when you "match" with someone, that someone never responds to anything you say.
I tried researching why this happens, and the theory that makes the most sense is that people just mindlessly swipe left and right to get a kick out of seeing who they match with. If that's true, it would mean that a lot of people (or women, at least) on dating apps aren't actually looking for relationships or even dates. Basically, they use it as nothing more than a self-gratifying phone game.
And whenever you actually do message someone, the conversation never lasts longer than 2-4 texts. Conversations usually end randomly, and as a result, you have no idea what to say to keep it going. One girl I was talking to immediately unmatched after I asked her if she followed any sports. It's like every single word you write is under a magnifying glass, and the slightest disinterest will put you back at square one.
This isn't just Tinder -- I've had these problems with every dating app I've ever been on. Does anyone else feel this way? Is this just me, and if so, what are you supposed to do differently?
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