I’ve (25F) struggled a lot emotionally with relationships and really find it hard to deal with rejection. Constant battle Is I like people who don’t like me and vice versa, feel like I’ve not been in love and had it reciprocated for a long time!
I don’t need to discover myself - I enjoy my job, own a home, just bought got my dream car and have travelled on solo trips to amazing places. So why am I so unhappy? It’s quite clear I don’t need a man to achieve all this things I am independent but I’m just very lonely and insecure about my looks and having a partner.
I put myself out there but it just never gets past the 3rd date, I just don’t know what I’m doing wrong. I’m not being too available or desperate (I hope). Sometimes I can been seen as closed, due to all these setbacks so I’ve consciously been making the effort to be more open but that looks to back fire too.
I recent went on a few dates with a guy I was so relieved he was proactively asking me out and arranging dates. I felt like we had really good chat texting during the day, same humour etc. I certainly had attraction there and this was most advanced I got with someone in the last year, but there’s always something in the back in my mind saying don’t get too attached or excited as it will just be shattered.
So our last date we actually went out of town and stayed the night, I really enjoyed myself but as soon as I was dropped off I just had this sinking feeling I wasn’t going to see him again. The texts seemed to change like no effort was being made, hasn’t ask when he was seeing me again like other times.
I just don’t know what to do as this is the point as rejection really hits my mental health- I’ve been doing exercise and walks, reading self help books doing everything I can to reduce my anxiety. Surely it can’t be another case of he’s just not that into you?
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