I [20f] broke up with my ex [23m] a few months ago but we remained fwb. Recently I was starting to feel like it wasn’t worth it and also thinking a lot about getting back together with him. We were together about a year and it was my first serious relationship. The reason I broke up with him was because the last half of the relationship really wasn’t good (at least for me). He was depressed and not really talking me. I was also in a bad place dealing with grief of losing my dad and I feel like his depression made it worse for me. Obviously I’m not blaming him for it but that’s just how I felt. I also had a really stressful semester and didn’t wanna mess up.
On top of that, he sometimes says things that hurt me or make me uncomfortable ... like he’s joking but it makes me feel bad. He always told me to let him know if he ever crosses boundaries with jokes and he’ll never repeat it again. So I know it was my bad. I’m not great at communication either so I kept things bottled up inside, which I know isn’t healthy. Plus I was so sad I didn’t wanna deal with breakup on top of it so kept going on. Eventually realized this was wrong and broke up. ** just wanted to clarify, it’s things like “you’re so pretty, just imagine how hot you’d look if you put some makeup” (I was too sad to dress up but didn’t tell him that), and just things like this about my looks. Idk why it makes me so uncomfortable and like I’m not good enough. Until now I thought it was his fault but I never told him so kinda think maybe my fault. You tell me...
Now after months, I’m still thinking about getting back with him. I feel like I can be better at communicating and he’s already taking anti-depressants. Do you think we should give it another shot?
TL;DR: broke up with ex but still have feelings for him. Main reason was him joking about some things/saying things about me that hurt. But I never told him I don’t like it. Now after months, I’m still thinking about getting back with him. I feel like I can be better at communicating and he’s already taking anti-depressants. Do you think we should give it another shot?
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