Recently my gf (28F) and I (28M) had a disagreement on how we view the friendships in each others lives. I was talking about wanting to hang out with my buddy and his girlfriend, both of whom I really get along with especially as I was the one who set them up. During our conversation she seemed uninterested and went as far as saying something along the lines of "those are YOUR friends." Immediately, I got upset but I eventually understood what she meant. The thing is that, as we discussed what she meant, we disagreed on something: I feel that, as my girlfriend, she should want to be friends with my friends, or at the very least attempt to get to know them and she feels that her friends are her friends and my friends are mine. I felt like she didn't care to make an effort to get along with the people that I knew before I even met her. I couldn't even begin to explain the situation to her because the friends she currently has, are also people I knew before I even met her. Basically, my friends are my friends and her friends are my friends, but my friends are not her friends. Am I making sense? Anyway, it led to an argument where basically she said "Do whatever you want with your friends. They're your friends and they don't have to be my friends." I'm just wondering what people think about their partners friendships in general. I would like effort, but I don't expect her to like them. I just wanted her to decide if she liked them or not after she met them, not before.
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