I'm not really anti social but I'm not really good with talking to women in a romantic way. I'm a fairly young bloke (19) I spend a lot of time in the gym, I do amateur lifting and I tend to have a "boring"/weird life as some people have told me, I avoid partys, disco clubs, smoking bars but rather I enjoy reading history and watching snooker (I try to live a healthy mental and a physical life).I have been rather active with approaching for some time but lately I'm not as confident as I was before, I have a lot of rejections under my belt (I believe 10 or so) I like to talk about it with my friends makes a good laugh, I tend to avoid social media flirting, I prefer face to face due to women being weird when messaging. I do have a rough approach and most of the time I end up being nervous although sometimes I did ok and it just wasn't meant to happen. I don't have any female friends, the few that I had I ended up liking and asking them out resulting at end in rejection and cease of contact. I'm left with luck and my courage to meet/approach new people which is really scary in reality for me and most of the time I fail to do so due to my self-consciousness. My biggest problem is finding a good moment and a place to approach women, half of them were really rude towards me and it messes me up, I do have quite a direct approach but I always try my best to be as respectful as I can. I aslo noticed women like older guys 80% of the time younger girls are dating guys 5-10 years older compared to them which gives hard competition and I don't wan't to be with underaged girls. This is giving me anxiety due to me doubting my capabilities I need some tips/tricks with approaching or some anxiety tips while undergoing approaching... Sometimes I feel it's not my fault due to the social standards, I do realize sometimes I can sound like a grandpa and my mom tells me I'm "too serious" for a man of my age, I always preferred smart and disciplined people which has given me quiet a few life long friends I am very grateful for. I know everything comes in time but I believe in skill and dedication over luck...
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