The new guy I'm dating makes about 5-6x more than me. It's significant, and it's the first time I've dated someone with that much of an income gap. I'm in grad school paying my way through it, working FT, and living paycheck to paycheck. I live on my own and feel proud that I've been able to support myself financially. I'll be a clinical social worker once I graduate, and even if I go into private practice... I won't ever be rolling in cash.
He works really hard, has insanely long hours, and spends pretty lavishly to reward himself for his hard work (large expensive takeout orders, fancy restaurants, Uber Luxury's, fancy tech ect). This I have no issue with, he deserves these things. The main issue I'm having is how to split things with him. I've split bills 50/50 with all of my previous partners, but they also didn't make 5-6x more than me so we bought cheaper takeout/did a lot of free things/activities.
So far, he's paid for almost everything. I always offer to split it and he always says there's no need. I live in a city without a car and he lives a bit far out so he usually ubers me to his and back, but I started paying for one every once in a while because it just felt wrong to me that I wasn't paying my way...even when I really can't afford it. I also don't want him to think I'm "gold digging" or anything. I was raised in a lower-class and have had to earn everything I have.. so it just doesn't always feel right. We had a special occasion recently, and I made him/wrote him something really thoughtful...but it's just not the same. Or is it?
Thoughts on who pays in these dynamics are appreciated! Would love to hear from both sides of the coin here :)
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