I (26F) get infatuated. Quickly. And it's not a pleasant experience! I'm self-aware enough to know it's happening, and to know I'm obsessing over the idea I'm projecting onto the person, and not necessarily the person himself.
It's a really uncomfortable experience - I feel like I lose control of my thoughts, and constantly feel like I need to seek validation from the "evidence" of our communication that he's still into me.
For example - we texted most of Friday night. Had a date on Saturday, which ended with him saying I'm cute and he hopes to keep doing this. He texted me immediately after the date, and then for a few hours after. But then his communication quieted a little over the last two days - he still responds to my messages almost immediately, even when I take hours to respond myself. And even when he does take a bit longer - he never fully leaves me hanging. But he hasn't prompted anything new in two days. I have...which means, he hasn't had to. I know. But I still have as massive urge to write a "Dear Reddit, does it seem like he's still into me?" post. Ugh.
I also it's only been two days. I know everything else indicates all systems go. I know I just need to back off, and if he's interested, he'll talk when he wants to talk. Big brain knows this. Lizard brain spirals out of control.
Do you have any advice to curb obsessive thoughts other than...keeping myself busy, keeping my conversations going with other romantic prospects, and being mindful of catching myself when I start to obsess? I'm doing a bit of all of those already, but I'm still here posting on Reddit, which indicates how well it's working...
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