This is going to be long but I'll try to keep it concise as I can.
I recently matched with this guy online who is, in every sense, perfect to me. Context: I am 28 and he's 37. He's quite experienced, has had 4 long term relationships (all over 2 years), one that almost ended up in marriage. He's single now though and has specified that he picked the wrong women to date. He owns his own business, is mature, funny. Basically, he's RIPE.
Meanwhile the longest relationship I've had is under a year. However, this is simply because I've never found the right one. In my early 20's I was laser-focused on work, and have reached a point where I now have a great career. My job has been demanding of my energy, leaving me little time to date. I'm also picky and no one has really "ignited my passions" so to speak. I've gone on dates with over 10 men and have had 2 semi-serious relationships (and burned quite badly with one of them). I no longer wish to play mind games, but I'm definitely not the clingy type.
He understandably seems to be a little bit concerned over the fact that I am a "blank slate", but I don't believe that having tons of experience makes for better relationship material. I know that I am absolutely wife material, and my friends have told me that any guy who catches my attention would be extremely lucky. He is definitely in a position to date some model type, but I'm cute, flirtatious, and have a lot to give. I'd say he's an 8 and I'm a 7 on the attractiveness scale, but he has indicated he adores personality over looks.
We've had one phone call and the chemistry we had was OFF THE CHARTS. Talked over 4 hours... lots of laughs and jabs. He wasn't afraid to ask me raunchy or taboo things and I loved it. He says he feels "comfortable with me" and that I "seem wholesome", even though it feels like he likes the "bad girl" type.
So to proceed from here... any insights on certain things I should be doing or saying to make him think I'm serious about this and also grab his attention? My friends say I should let him chase me, but I believe that I should be as sincere and genuine as I can, at least at first. I'm too much in my head right now and could use some advice!
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