I'm 26, my girlfriend is 35 and is a single mom to a 4yo son. We both have our own apartments and have been dating for about 3ish months.
Last Friday, she attended a small Christmas party at her ex's place so he could see his son. On Monday she started having COVID symptoms and we spent like 4 hours trying to source a test kit. I finally found out that my parents had an extra and made the 2 hour round trip in the snow to get it to her. On Wednesday I bought a week's worth of groceries and delivered them to her. Whenever I'm not at work we've been chatting either on the phone, video call or via text.
Yesterday was my day off. The plan was to knock out my chores by noon and then spend the rest of the day playing video games. We did a phone call at 8:30 while I was making coffee and oatmeal and we chatted until her son woke up at about 9:30. She called me back at 11:30 and we had a call while I was doing dishes, vacuuming, doing laundry, and fiddling with one of my houseplants, she had to go at about 12:15 and as I was done with chores I started on videogames.
At 1:30 she called and I paused the race I was in. After a few minutes, I asked to go to the bathroom then give her a callback. I tried calling back at 1:40, 1:45, and 1:55. After the third time, I thought I'd finish the race I was in as I only had a half lap to go. I was nearly on the home stretch with 1500yd to go when she called. I picked up the call and was going to finish the race then stop playing. Unfortunately I made a mistake, crashed, and lost the race. I told her about it and she got real quiet. After about 30 seconds I asked if she was still there and she responded that she was trying to decide if she was going to continue talking with me.
I asked what I did wrong and she told me that video games are extremely rude because your attention is being spent on them and not on the other person. I tried to explain that I was simply trying to finish the race and then apologized for not pausing the game when she called back. She said that she had to go then hung up.
2 hours later she texted that she decided that video games were rude and that I was being disrespectful to her. She asked if I agreed if it was a problem or if I felt that she was blowing it out of proportion.
I responded that I didn't know if it was being blown out of proportion and was declining to answer because just like telling an angry person to "calm down" telling her she was blowing it out of proportion would be incredibly ineffective and would probably only fan the flames. I apologized again for finishing the race and told her that I wouldn't do it again.
That was the last I heard from her yesterday. I texted at 9 pm that I had to go to bed and wished her a good night.
I woke up to two texts, one at 10 pm was about how her first day of the year was incredibly disappointing and that she was exhausted from arguing and that she was mad that I went to bed before this was resolved. She reiterated that video games don't matter and that it was wrong for me to treat her that way.
The other text was at 11:30, she's extremely upset and doesn't want to talk for the rest of her quarantine (which ends Friday 1/7).
1) Sanity check, did I actually do something wrong by finishing the race?
2) I feel like her reaction is extreme. Am I wrong?
3) Do I respond to her last text? I feel like either way this relationship is doomed.
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