I (26F) have been with my partner (26M) for 4 years, lived together for 3. We started out amazing and had a really strong relationship. Our honeymoon phase probably lasted first year and a half, and for a long time I did consider him to be my soulmate.
Over the past year, we’ve had some bigger fights that have made us both really evaluate our compatibility. We always try to work through our arguments and honestly many times I do feel a little invalidated and just try to move past it. This last weekend we had another fight where i was left feeling like this was really the end for us. I got some friendly advice and we ended up talking again where I shared the issues I’ve had with our relationship and feeling like my needs aren’t being met, also got his side of things. Obviously a lot more was said between us, but for the sake of remaining vague in case he sees this, I’ll leave it at that.
He said he would try harder and wants to be what I deserve, and I do believe he wants that. But I also kind of feel like my heart has just had enough? Most “big” fights we’ve had has been him doing something and hurting my feelings, or lacking communication, or invalidating me. I do care about him so much and have a lot of love for him, but I haven’t had a healthy relationship before him or even a good frame of reference to determine if I’m still IN LOVE or if I just love him and I need to let him go. This is also still very fresh and raw, and I tend to feel very deeply, so it may just be I need a little time but how much more time do I give?
I realize after posting this may be better for r/relationships or something similar but too late idk how to change it.
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