This is more a question but at the same time l'm open to advice as well. So context: recently I went to a very close friend of mine engagement party where our mutual friends from college were there I haven't seen in years. Two weeks later my friend her fiancé and two other friends of ours went for KBBQ where at the end of the night one of them hit me up privately asking personally she'd like to get to know me better as if she's interested in me so we began talking a bit getting to know one another beyond just friends (it's been 5-6 years since l last saw her) so 6 days later we went on a date but during that time we FaceTimed at night text during the day it was sweet. The night of the date came things went well had a nice dinner walked around talking then made out for 2 hours planned our next meet up etc. 3 days later she says to me she doesn't see me as romantically compatible despite nothing was wrong and wished we could remain friends. We were already friends to begin with so I said I understand and appreciate the honesty.
So why am I making this post well l'm not gonna lie this whole thing wasn't on my bingo card for the end of this year but I welcomed it up until that point lol l been single since 2020 had my fair share of dates afterwards that went nowhere until I decided to focus on myself and just worked on me and take care of my dog make money follow my dreams all that stuff. But honestly l've noticed a pattern with each time and this stems from my last real relationship where I'm just casually living my life a girl comes into it with interests we chat things are getting somewhere after we get to know each other then after the first date/or second I get the "hey I just want to be friends" text or sometimes I'm just blocked and ignored and I had no clue but I get the hint immediately and move along with my life. I wonder if there's something wrong with me?
Tbh I hate to say it like this now that there are memes of it but I'm a pretty chill laidback guy that likes to vibe get to know people and I can be clueless at points when someone is interested in me cause my mind is on my dreams and usually it's unexpected when a girl wants to take interest in me. I always get the comparison of how "normal" or "different I am from other guys they dated or whatever and I'm like ier I guess idk how you haven't met someone that takes interests in things you do and just likes to enjoy life and have fun. Idk at this point I'm back to having my ice cold heart with my cards held close like in poker swearing to never pursue anything and focus on me yet again until that day comes once again someone else shows up and the cycle repeats that l'm more friend material than something more no matter how perfect I am to them I can be and idk how I am when I'm flawed as many but just been through a lot of my own personal shit i just don't want to relay that shit on others when I just met them or getting to know them. Eventually I hope this cycle ends but who knows I just don't care anymore.
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