So I liked a girl, so I asked her out, and she said yes. When we got to the date, I told her that I was interested in getting to know each other better, etc. She said that she was emotionally unavailable because of some situations that had happened to her. It was okay; I took her home and gave her some of the food we did not use on the date (it was a picnic).
Later I was sad because of that, but we kept hanging out with common friends and started to develop a stronger friendship and talked more. Now we are even on the same team at work. I found out that the thing about being emotionally unavailable is true (I just thought it was a kind way of saying no). She is still waiting for her ex to come back. I started to see posts like "Ready to say no to everyone who asks me out" with likes from her on social media, and someone else brought up the topic that she is still waiting for someone. That hurt because I realized my chances on that date were zero no matter what. Later I found out that the relationship is even a little bit old, from late 2022 to early 2023, and she still has those feelings and is waiting.
At some party, we encountered her ex. She was missing because of that. Her friends started to talk with him about who was searching for whom and told them to stop messing with her. He says that she's the one who looks for him and that he is only being polite by answering her. Later he left and the girl came back. Her friends started to talk about the situation. She admitted that she still has feelings for him and that he was her first love. The friends mentioned that she denies everyone else an opportunity and that she is missing out on people who would respect her and treat her well. I'm not sure if I was included in that, but I had to hear everything. All that hurt like hell. I left them with a handkerchief for cleaning her tears, but I went somewhere else, drank a lot, cried, and ended up drunk, even puked, I am not good with the alcohol. We haven't talked since then.
Did I do something wrong? Am I an idiot for still waiting for her to give me a chance to know me better? I know that I want her in my life, at least as a friend, but the thought of her being with someone else is infuriating for me.
Any comment on the situation, or even an insult, would be appreciated.
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