TLDR live in girlfriend wants another cat, I don’t. I’ve always said 2 was my limit. dont know how to compromise on 1 animal without becoming king solomon from the bible.
Been dating for four years or so. we moved in together after about two years. she used to live with her mom at home and they took in many cats, including in their yard.
I live in a rent controlled apartment in manhattan which is extremely lucky. she moved in with me and we split expenses. it’s not huge but it’s less than a quarter price of other similar apartment i’ve seen.
I have had two cats for years. I have always been really emphatic about 2 being my limit, always mentioned how much fun her and her mom’s lifestyle of constant adopting seems but that I really had a limit.
Now she’s talking about getting a kitten. She’s been sending me posts about litters of kittens and forcing me to continually say “no”. I said I didn’t want a another cat but apparently “it’s not a cat, it’s a kitten!”
the arguments from her side are all about how cute it would be, how she has experience with many cats and how it won’t even be that different.
it feels like she’s not taking my concerns seriously and making me feel like a wet blanket.
I just don’t want to disturb my adult cats, nor do I want to live in a small apartment with multiple cats. I also don’t think i would even want more cats if i had the space, but that’s besides the point. I am very happy with my two animals and I don’t want to change that aspect of my life.
Im worried she’s going to bring home a kitten and pull the “look how cute he is! you have to love him!”
I know this makes me the internet’s demon or whatever, because im going against the cute meme idea of forcing new pets on people.
I’m also worried this laissez faire attitude towards my stated boundaries could expand to my strongest boundary—not wanting kids. She’s always said that she “probably” doesnt want them.
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