And it's perfectly fine.
Today was the last day of our training for a new job and I would likely never see her again after the training. So the whole day I was going back and forth in my head, weighing pros and cons of asking her, how I would ask, when, etc. End of the day arrives and as she was walking down the stairs to leave the building, I decided to quit being a pussy and follow to ask her out. She said "yeah for sure, but just so you know I have a boyfriend." I replied "well that is not at all surprising, but no worries." She kinda laughed and gave me her number anyway probably just out of kindness.
The biggest takeaway for me was that as I was driving home, I felt really good. I wasn't down or upset. I felt proud and accomplished actually because I took a risk and actually felt relieved because I didn't need to fantasize or wonder anymore.
I'm mostly posting this because I know a lot of guys feel down after rejection or are too afraid to even ask, but it's the ONLY way to get experience and the ONLY way you will ever know. Instead of just wondering or fantasizing, take control of your own destiny and put yourself out there.
EDIT: So I've noticed quite a few of you suggesting that this wasn't a full blown rejection because she still gave me her number. And that there might actually be a chance she's somewhat interested or it's worth it to at least send her a text. Maybe I didn't provide enough context, but I'll do so because from my point of view, she was just being nice. My actual question was "I was wondering if you wanted to hang out sometime?" and she said "yeah for sure, but just so you know I have a boyfriend." I told her "that is not at all surprising but no worries" and she said something to the effect of "but yeah I guess we could always like study or something", which really doesn't make sense lol because study for what? I feel like she was just trying to be nice and the way I initially asked the question made it sound like I wasn't asking for a straight up date. Had I asked her more specifically "wanna go on a date?" or "wanna grab a drink sometime?" or something, I think she might've been more blunt/not given me her number. Asking "wanna hang out sometime?" is a bit more open-ended where in her mind, I might just be trying to be friends, which cued her initial response of "sure, but I have a boyfriend."
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