Hey Reddit, I'm in a unique situation.
I’m a straight 28 year-old male in the Orange County (California) area with less than 1.5 years to live thanks to a medical condition and I want to have a happy, healthy relationship and lose my virginity before I die. I have very limited experience, and what little I have from “fooling around” was tainted by my last ex, who was extremely selfish, abusive, and cheated on me with multiple guys, one of which I've now come to find out, she's now with. I don’t understand why she didn’t play by the rules and yet SHE’S the one who’s happy and in a relationship and getting all those positive experiences and I’m just sitting here alone and in pain. I wasted 7 years of my life on this girl. I’m at my limit right now, and a friend I met online suggested I post here. I just want the pain to end.
I would really like to have positive romantic and sexual experiences from here on out, but don't know how to get that and I need all the help I can get. My IRL friends are no help at all, since they don’t even want to hang around me anymore because they’re all married to each other and only want to hang out with their “couple friends”. I’m literally the only single one left in my social circle. Please note that hiring a prostitute/escort is NOT something I am open to doing, so please DO NOT suggest that.
I've tried OKC and Bumble, neither of which has done any good. I don't even get matches anymore on OKC, and nobody ever swipes right on me on Bumble. If I’m not able to get matches on OKC and Bumble, there’s no way I’d be able to get any matches on Tinder. I'm getting tired of online dating at this point. It doesn't even feel worth it anymore, because no matter how much effort I put into my profiles and/or messages, nothing good comes out of it. I’m not just sending “Hey”, either. I read through their profiles and put in the effort to craft an individual message tailored to them, but either I get nothing back, or the conversation ends up dying. I’ll probably end up closing my accounts by the end of August if nothing changes on that front.
I've tried going out, too, but nobody approaches me anymore like they used to. I have a hard time telling if a woman is into me, too. I can see it perfectly if she likes someone else, but not if she likes me. I've always been this way. Maybe I need a wing woman or something, but once again, no single friends who want to help me with that.
So, Reddit, is there any way to get the things I want/need in a reasonable amount of time given what time I have left here on Earth?
TL;DR - 28M in OC with less than 1.5 years left to live needs advice or a miracle to have a happy, healthy relationship and positive sexual experiences before he dies, but doesn’t know how to get that.
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