Hey guys, I (26F) am in a bit of a rut here. Last week, a guy (31M) I've been talking to since January and started seeing in March told me he no longer felt anything for me. We took things quite slowly (that's what we both agreed on), starting off with only messaging back and forth for the first two months (he was in a complicated open relationship at the time and I didn't want to get too involved), and hung out as friends just a couple of times before we started meeting each other more formally, although very few of the times we've met up have been actual dates. We didn't sleep together until the end of May when we went to a music festival together.
When he explained how he had been feeling about me this whole time, he said the period between March and May was wonderful. That he felt really strongly for me. The festival at the end of May was the "peak" for him and after that, he started noticing he no longer felt the same way. On the other hand, my feelings for him have been more or less steady, although I did feel we were starting to grow further apart this past month of June (as did he). The difference though, is that I still have feelings for him and his pretty much faded away (that's what he tells me anyway). In addition, I don't want to give up on this yet.
When I asked if it was something I had done, he said no. He told me he thinks I'm an incredible woman in every way. That he's been able to connect with me intellectually in a way that he hasn't with anyone else before. In the end, he basically gave me the whole "it's not you, it's me" excuse, which to this day I'm not entirely buying. He said he would love to stay friends, talk, and continue to get to know each other.
The past few days I've been doing an awful lot of thinking about all this because I'm not ready to give up on him. We connect in a way that has been a unique experience to both of us, understanding how the other feels in almost every context and just all around "getting" each other. I think we both see a side of each other that no one else really ever sees. Anyway, today I realized that I had been acting different towards him this past month, and that what we had had grown stale. I really think it's just a matter of making things more exciting for each other again, but I don't know how receptive he's going to be toward that idea. What do you guys think I should do?
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